I’m not sure that the teachings on “impermanence” are understood rightly.

Seems like a lot of people fear impermanence and undertake spiritual practice to escape loss, and try to become numb so that they won’t grieve.

But that’s not the way.

Impermanence is really the fluidity and the aliveness of life itself.

It’s not loss, it’s possibility.

And forget those ego-sops about “something-better awaiting you.” That’s just another kind of egoic goal-orientation that takes us out of our inherent connection to Being. Enter into the light, fluid aliveness of the indeterminacy and let it call-forth from you the person and qualities asked by the moment.

So the task before us is not to become indifferent, but to enter-into the fluidity and find the support that’s inherent in being instead of creating structure to manage change.

Because it’s not the thing that you are afraid to lose, but the aliveness to which you are connected by the thing. And that aliveness pervades the whole of space and yourself; an authentic practice reconnects you to your essence-nature in which your aliveness is self-subsisting. It is just what shows-up &emdash; “just there, like the moon in the window” — when we stop doing all the things that hold us separate from our own deep substance.

Exclude nothing.

That is the true teaching.

All this spiritual exercise is to become free,
which is to align ourselves with wholeness
and let ourselves be unfolded by the inherent wisdom and goodness
that is “just there, like the moon in the window.” (rumi)

On the way, there is a lot of
“remedial humaning”
to train the ego
so that it becomes
a vehicle of light
instead of a compost-bucket
on the banquet-table
of this delicious life.

Reject not the compost bucket; it has its place.
Neither walk through life with one foot in it.

If someone has not really processed their own trauma, their actions in advocacy for an abused individual (or marginalized group) can be as egoically self-serving — and potentially as damaging to the one advocated-for — as the actions of the accused or oppressor.

The more “unique” you are, the more separate you are — and the more inherently-frustrating will be the pursuit of being-truly-seen through your uniqueness, because it’s based in what’s-missing instead of what’s-whole.